by Kate Czpalinski (TheRidgefieldPress.com)
It’s taken about seven years and a lot of ups and downs, but Terrie Martin published a children’s book based on an incredible friendship she watched form in a Branchville School preschool class in 1996.
My Friend Molly Comes to Preschool is the true story of two students, Molly Ann Tango and Lisa Fox, forming a bond in the classroom.
Ms. Martin worked with Molly as a paraprofessional with the school’s Special Needs Preschool program. Molly had
limited mobility and was nonverbal. She was three when she came to the school. Lisa Fox was a part of the classroom’s general population and chosen to be a speech and behavior “role model” for Molly.
“I remember the moment the two girls connected,” Ms. Martin said. “We were standing on line waiting to go home one afternoon. Lisa stood next to Molly’s wheelchair and reached to hold Molly’s hand. I will never forget watching their eyes meet and the smiles that were exchanged. You could almost hear the silent words they spoke to each other.”
Ms. Martin worked with Molly for three years.
Molly died in 2003 but her life inspired her parents and friends to start the Molly Ann Tango Memorial Foundation — providing financial assistance and guidance to dozens of special needs children.
Molly’s life also inspired Ms. Martin to write her story — a promise she made silently at Molly’s memorial service in December 2003. She imagined the book honoring Molly by promoting acceptance among children and advocating for classrooms to “share the fun” with all students.
“Preschool is a unique time for students — they have one agenda and that’s to play,” Ms. Martin said. “They don’t have peer pressure or prejudices. It’s the perfect time for kids to connect regardless of differences.”
After she wrote the short story, Ms. Martin received enthusiastic permission from Todd and Cathy Tango and she promised that proceeds from the book would go to Molly’s foundation.
She began navigating the tricky world of self-publishing. Her family, friends and continuing education classes with Peggy Bruno were a big help in completing the hardcover book.
“I really felt like Molly was holding my hand,” Ms. Martin said, “she was saying ‘come on, let’s do this.’ She worked her magic again and again.”
Ms. Martin’s biggest challenge was finding the right kind of artist to create colorful artwork that would appeal to children.
Unexpectedly, Ms. Martin met Roxanne Lasky, owner of the Quilter’s Alley at 422 Main Street.
The two became friends as Ms. Martin started taking quilting lessons and gradually began talking about the book.
“I’ve been a watercolorist for years,” Ms. Lasky said. “I always wanted to do a children’s book and it appealed to me even more because I’ve taught classes with handicapped and special needs children.”
Ms. Lasky studied photos, took pictures of the Branchville classroom and worked tirelessly to create the more than ten illustrations in the book. She included an illustration of Ms. Martin and Molly’s other teacher, Bridget Schumacher.
Molly’s mother, Cathy Tango, couldn’t believe how well Ms. Lasky illustrated Molly in the book.
“The book is unbelievable,” Ms. Tango said. “It captures Molly perfectly.”
Ms. Lasky also made a story quilt to accompany the book, complete with beautiful colors and patches of pictures from the book.
The quilt will be auctioned off at the Molly Tango Foundation annual Mother’s Day luncheon May 8. Kits to create a replica of the story quilt are also on sale at The Quilter’s Alley.
“Without Roxanne, this book just wouldn’t come alive — it’s just words,” Ms. Martin said.
While Molly made an everlasting impression on Ms. Martin, Cathy and Todd Tango believe that Ms. Martin and teacher Bridget Schumacher played a big part in making preschool one of the happiest times in Molly’s life.
“I always thought Terrie and Molly were perfectly matched,” Ms. Tango said. “It was scary to send this helpless child who can’t talk to school — I was scared — but I believe Terrie was sent to us.”
Molly Tango Foundation director Debbie Haughney agreed that the book is a valuable educational tool.
“It’s a very simple message and it’s about friendship,” Ms. Haughney said.
The foundation has helped about 40 families so far.
The foundation has two fundraisers each year and Ms. Haughney said the book will play a large part in helping to raise more funds that go directly to children.
My Friend Molly will be on sale during the Mother Day Luncheon and at the Orange Elephant for $20. It can also be purchased at www.APreschoolStory.com.
All proceeds will go to keeping the foundation accessible to families in need.
“We don’t require a lot of paperwork, if we have funds to meet that need we grant it,” Ms. Haughney said. “Todd and Cathy’s vision was not to have an organization without all the red tape.”
The group has provided a number of gifts from wheelchairs, ramps, bath chairs to special summer camps and visits to medical clinics.
“We’ve been able to help every family that has needed it,” Mr. Tango said. “The costs of raising a special needs child are astronomical. We help them out where we can and let them spend time loving their kids instead of worrying about bills.”
The other goal of the foundation is raising awareness and the book will help do that.
“We want to increase awareness of special needs and bring it to the forefront” Mr. Tango said. “These kids deserve the same treatment and they love the same as anyone else does. It’s about normalizing (special needs) it.”
It’s a thrill for Mr. Tango every time he sees Molly’s name out there, he said.
“It’s my way of keeping her alive and keeping her busy,” Mr. Tango said.
The Mothers Day Luncheon Friday, May 8 will be held at the Salem Golf Club at 11:30. A $50 ticket includes food, a silent auction a number of inspiring stories from those the foundation has helped.
Ms. Lasky and Ms. Martin will sign copies of the book during the event. To purchase tickets or donate to the foundation call Jean Cobelli at 894-8626.
To learn more about the foundation visit MollyTango.org or call 431-4180.
“It is my hope that whoever reads Molly’s story will have their hearts and minds opened,” Ms. Martin said.
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